TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN
You never lose by loving. You always lose by trying to make him be what you want.
Finding someone who truly deserves you will be like looking for a needle in a pile. Getting a near perfect understanding about love, you must first journey into yourself. There will be those who’ll size up in many ways, but finding someone who really will agree in totality with what you want is not that easy. Because of this, sometimes you tend not to see clearly when you are in the midst of a love tied relationship.Every woman deserves to be treated like a choice, not an option. You are not someone’s "I Think." Let him treat you like his priority. When the intensity of love is different, you end up living in doubts. But do you really deserve someone that will treat you without regards? No, you deserve better. Someone that will love you unconditionally. He calls you just because he wants to hear your voice. He will never sleep when he knows you are sad.
The best way to set a relationship is to always listen to what your partner has to say. Is he talking to you about the future? So many people make the same mistakes In their relationship. The best way to grow a relationship is to communicate more than acting. When you mix up the important and insignificant together, believe it, you might lose that relationship.
What will you do if your partner says to you that he can't accept what you believe and if your relationship eventually leads to the alter he won't allow you force your children into what to accept? After hearing all these you still believe is just a mere saying. When someone tells you who they are, believe them and don't think you can change them. The mistake a lot of people make in relationship is to think you can utterly change a person you've started mixing affections with.
When you fail to communicate in a relationship, you can never get the truth off your partner. When he looks at you in the eye because of a little misunderstanding and says to you that You Deserve Better or starts reminding you of your age, your attitude and all that, he is telling you to move on because he doesn't care enough about you. He will not put in the effort or energy he know you deserve.
Being aware of differences in the intensity of love can be hurtful, because it implies that one partner is in doubt—it implies a certain type of rejection. Sometimes, you would not want to admit to yourself that he does not deserve your love because you don't want to feel cheated or used. Accepting defeat is no failure. Failure is when you try to please him after knowing that he does not want you. Now, that is even more painful and can make you break down.
Don't start thinking of how to please him or want to do everything in your power to make him happy. Everyone deserves to be treated as a treasure. Truth is, if your idea of the perfect guy revolves around his tastes, what he does for fun, and the stuff you want to have in common with him, you might be waiting a very long time – and there’s no guarantee that he’s a good guy even if you find him.
When a guy makes you is choice, he won't have to think twice to know if he wants to accept your likes and dislikes. When he is saying "You can't change me." Watch him. If he says it to you more than once, don't take such words for granted. He meant every of his words. If you have ever been on the wrong end of an unequal relationship, you know how terrible it feels.
Emotions flood over you that you’re embarrassed to admit. Feelings of worthlessness, neediness, confusion. Which means you’ve also spent sleepless nights beating yourself up, wondering what you could have done differently, asking friends how you could have turned things around.
You shouldn't feel heartbroken because he is not agreeing to your want. When he is no longer looking at you, it means he is not noticing you. There is probably a side chic. At this point, you need to ask yourself questions. Don't force him and don't make him feel you are going to die without him.
Sometimes it's good to let go, rearrange yourself, then wait to see what the rejection will bring on the table. If it brings something negative, kick it out of your way. Dwelling in the past can be more painful than the past. If it brings something positive welcome it and move on with it.
Relationship is two sides of the same coin. It comes with love and hate. Is very important you put in mind that You can't always get want you love but you can grow love for what you have. You measure your relationship to be sure is in a good state when he communicates directly with you and doesn’t try to hide anything or leave anything vague. He should be someone who’s always there for you – who wants you to succeed and become the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. He has to demonstrate his respect for you in every interaction he has with you. He thinks about your feelings before he says or does anything. Respect is a basic human decency in a relationship and life in general.
In a good relationship you don't ask for anything because he already knows that you deserve the necessity. The most important thing in a relationship is that the two must agree. Without agreement two can not work together. Therefore, understanding and compatibility are very essential if a relationship must stand the test of time.
I will like to leave you with this. Be sure before getting involved with him. A faulty relationship that leads to marriage can cause a lot of terrible things in future. It may interest you to know that marriage is purpose. For some women they tape fully into their God's divine purpose when they get married. Getting involved with someone who does not see you as a choice rather he sees you as "Let it just be that I'm married." Can terminate your purpose for life. So many women don't have an idea of who they are and what they can do but when a partner comes, he helps you unlock the You that is locked inside. So know if you really want to do it before taking a step.
Juliet Amos.
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